> ## Content Index > Fetch the complete content index at: https://www.connercarey.com/llms.txt > Use this file to discover other available public pages before exploring further. # 5 Ways Bipolar Made Me Punk Rock - URL: https://www.connercarey.com/blog/bipolar-is-punk-rock/ - Published: 2023-11-29T00:41:34.000Z - Updated: 2026-05-31T01:31:31.000Z - Description: 1. I made the choice to be transparent. I read the exit papers from the University of Iowa Hospital, and my first concern was my resume. It sounds silly, ridiculous even. But a Bipolar diagnosis is something most people in most professions can hide: - Author: Conner Carey - Tags: Personal Essay, Dispatches *\*written by my 24-year-old self; edited at 31.* ### 1\. **I made the choice to be transparent**. **I read the exit papers from the University of Iowa Hospital, and my first concern was my resume**. It sounds silly, ridiculous even. But a Bipolar diagnosis is something *most* people in *most* professions can hide: But I’m a writer. My resume is never alone. In fact, my resume plays second to whatever I’ve written. And what I write matters to me. Mental health matters to me. Which meant (*dun, dun, dun*), I’d be writing about it. If I am to defy my diagnosis — if I’m to process the new trauma: I knew I would not only be writing about it but performing, singing, and shouting about it — knowing anyone could read what happened to me. ### 2\. **During my second year of college, my mind just seemed to...pop**. On the other side, I see myself more clearly: the way my oscillation between depression and mania kept me separate and unable to connect with other people while projecting a happy, carefree woman. It was all too easy to deal with my emotions alone and take my smile into the world. The doctors said I was a special case. In solitary confinement, I was a wild animal (obviously, doc). Then days later, I seemed to be normal: quietly enjoying morning cartoons like a toddler who drinks coffee. When I left this hospital (my third), I finally went home. **Turns out, Humpty Dumpty can be put back together again**. (It took me a long time though…I still find pieces.) ### 3\. **I tried to do what the doctors told me (it didn't work)**. I took their medication and answered their stupid questions, “Have you seen anything that isn’t there?” “Like what?” “Anything; giraffes, elephants, Jesus Christ.” *Riddle me this:* if I see giraffes, how do I know they’re not there?As though my delusions are so far outside of reality that I’d bring a giraffe into the Midwest. If I’m going to see an animal that isn’t there, it will be a deer (but again, how would I *know* it’s not there?) - The anti-paranoia meds gave me fits of fear. - The anti-anxiety pills sent me into bouts of tears. - The anti-psychotics made shadows bounce off the walls. - Lithium turned me into a stone cliff face, unable to feel or move. Byron said, “If I don’t write to empty my mind, I go mad.” Well, I have been mad and I had been writing. The medications that were life-saving at the hospital, made me mad outside of it. Moreover, I refused to accept the unfeeling shell deemed my safe range of emotion. To succumb would be to accept death, but **I survived**. So despite the decree of the medical system and with support from my mom, I began to wean off all of the medication – until seven months later my brain was again my own. **Editor’s Note**: Medication is essential for many. I have not found any that work for me. This, too, is valid and worth sharing. THC and CBD are my most reliable medicinal tools. I rely on my support system to know my health non-negotiables and offer stern directions should I need it. **Future Conner Here (5/26)**: I finally found a med I like and it makes a world of difference. Lamotrigine, bb. ### 4\. **I finished school**. When I left the hospital, everything was scary. Every adventure of leaving my house was a courageous leap in trusting the universe to see me through. I began by walking to my best friend's house. After a month, I took my first solo drive. After a couple months, I trusted myself enough to take my dog, Buddy for a nature walk. It was a lovely day. I parked in the girl’s dorm parking lot — where I had lived and parked many times before — to access a nearby trail. After getting back to my truck, I felt the impulse to walk into Admissions. So I did. *I returned to college less than five months after leaving the psych ward*. Don't ask me how. I am in awe of that person just as much, if not more, than you are. ## I am incredibly appreciative to the wild, beautiful version of me who said, “F\*\*k this sh\*t. I choose my future.” ### 5\. **I was enrolled in Physics while weaning off medication**. My school runs on a block system, allowing students to focus on one class each month. Physics is a required core class that many students flunk the first time and have to retake. It's famous for being *the* dreaded core class. But I had a million writing classes I wanted to take — I was *not* takingPhysics again. I only had to make it through four weeks. In the hospital, I was given a PSAT test to occupy my time. I remember staring at the page and saying, “It’s gone. The math is gone.” (I re-taught myself long-division a year later because it never came back.) I was completely weaned off medication by the third week of Physics, and relatively confident I would get an A in class. I didn't just pass my first class back in school, I returned to being the engaged nerd I've always been. It seems silly, ridiculous even. But **I realized that I was still the same person, capable of learning more, creating more — writing more.** **Which meant I could sing, too**. Which meant I could learn to trust myself again. And there is nothing more punk rock than that.